{"id":901,"date":"2023-12-25T15:23:33","date_gmt":"2023-12-25T13:23:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/laszlo8360.com\/?p=901"},"modified":"2024-06-13T17:29:42","modified_gmt":"2024-06-13T15:29:42","slug":"budapest-2023-december-25","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/laszlo8360.com\/en\/budapest-2023-december-25\/","title":{"rendered":"!!!Budapest, 2023 december 25."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Good morning from Budapest! It’s December 25th, 2023 and I woke up feeling refreshed.
It’s December 25th, 2023 and I woke up feeling refreshed. Unfortunately, the bathroom is currently occupied, so I’ll skip my morning shower for now.
While it’s not typical to have goulash soup and bonfire dessert for breakfast in Hungary, I’m excited to try something new and different. It’s interesting how I don’t refer to my homeland as ‘home’.
I’m not particularly eager to go to the country as I find it hard to catch the train and I’m not really in the mood for this visit. However, as soon as I reach Balatonvil\u00e1gos, I find myself glued to the window like a newborn tourist, filming the beautiful lakeshore. Despite not having reached my destination yet, my brother is already inviting me to stay over and I’ve already promised my father I’ll be at his place in the afternoon. It’s been nine months since I last visited my grandfather’s living room, and just an hour after my arrival, my brother and his daughter show up. Although I live over a thousand kilometers away from my parents’ house, my brother and niece live just nine kilometers away and are always ready to help out when our father needs it. I’m so grateful for their support, especially since they sometimes take care of him. While I may not be able to help my parents as much as I’d like, it’s comforting to know that they have such wonderful support nearby.
Yesterday, when I arrived in the country, I had a really pleasant experience on the bus. I could understand every word clearly, which was a relief as I didn’t have to constantly translate in my head. However, this afternoon I had an unpleasant experience on the bus. I understand that in this country this kind of behaviour is perfectly normal, but I come from a country where respect starts earlier. It seems like many people are frustrated here. When I tried to explain myself, the driver still didn’t seem to understand me. It all began when I was waiting for a good bus and he asked me unkindly to move to the back of the queue. I noticed that everyone was feeling frustrated. The bus driver seemed to have misunderstood me when I said I didn’t want to hurt him. He thought I wanted to attack him. Maybe it’s best if I don’t speak to anyone. Everyone here seems to be easily agitated.
Like yesterday at the restaurant, it took me 30 seconds to calm down the overwhelmed barmaid. It’s no wonder she’s feeling exhausted, she’s been getting abuse all day. No one even seems to acknowledge her hard work. In fact, I understand the bus driver’s frustration, but I don’t want to cause any harm either. Maybe if he wasn’t too stressed\u2026
I arrived at my father’s and had a lovely chat with him. Then we went over to my brother’s house where my dad joined us, even though he had mentioned to me that he didn’t want to go. Then we went over to my brother’s house where my dad joined us, even though he had mentioned to me that he didn’t want to go. However, when his grandson called, there were no more objections.
Hey! I heard that your bro finally moved into his new house! It’s a big house in a really nice location, right? That’s great news! I bet he’s really excited about it. But overall, it sounds like a really amazing place! I noticed that he’s really into technology because everything is so modern, clean and sophisticated. Although, I did notice that some of the switches are a bit complicated to operate, which can be uncomfortable. I’m so proud of him for building such a beautiful house! We talked late into the night and I even slept there too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Budapest, 25 d\u00e9cembre 2023.
Int\u00e9ressant, j’ai bien dormi et je me suis r\u00e9veill\u00e9 tout seul. Cependant, la salle de bain est occup\u00e9e par un groupe d’Asiatiques, je renonce donc \u00e0 la douche matinale.
M\u00eame en Hongrie, il n’est pas habituel de prendre une soupe de goulasch copieuse et un dessert de feu de joie pour le petit-d\u00e9jeuner, mais ici, j’aurai quelque chose que je n’ai pas \u00e0 la maison. Oups, c’est bizarre : je n’utilise pas le mot “maison” pour parler de mon pays d’origine.
Je ne suis pas press\u00e9 d’aller \u00e0 la campagne. J’ai du mal \u00e0 prendre le train. Je ne suis pas d’humeur \u00e0 faire cette visite. Pourtant, \u00e0 Balatonvil\u00e1gos, je m’accroche \u00e0 la fen\u00eatre comme un touriste nouveau-n\u00e9. Je continue \u00e0 filmer les rives du lac. Mon train n’est pas encore arriv\u00e9 \u00e0 destination que mon fr\u00e8re m’appelle d\u00e9j\u00e0 pour dormir chez lui. J’ai d\u00e9j\u00e0 promis \u00e0 mon p\u00e8re d’\u00eatre chez lui dans l’apr\u00e8s-midi. Une heure apr\u00e8s mon arriv\u00e9e, mon fr\u00e8re et sa fille apparaissent dans le salon de mon grand-p\u00e8re. Je n’\u00e9tais pas venu depuis neuf mois, eux depuis trois, j’habite \u00e0 mille deux cents kilom\u00e8tres de la maison de mes parents, ils habitent \u00e0 neuf kilom\u00e8tres. Pourtant, si mon p\u00e8re a besoin d’aide, ils sont l\u00e0. Je leur suis reconnaissante car ils s’occupent parfois de lui. Je n’aiderai pas mes parents, m\u00eame si j’en ai vraiment besoin.
Hier, lorsque je suis arriv\u00e9e dans le pays, ma premi\u00e8re exp\u00e9rience agr\u00e9able a \u00e9t\u00e9 dans le bus : Je pouvais comprendre chaque mot clairement, je n’avais pas besoin de traduire constamment dans ma t\u00eate. La premi\u00e8re exp\u00e9rience d\u00e9sagr\u00e9able a eu lieu dans le bus cet apr\u00e8s-midi. Je comprends que dans ce pays, ce genre de comportement grincheux est tout \u00e0 fait normal, mais je viens d’un pays o\u00f9 le respect commence plus t\u00f4t. Ici, tout le monde est frustr\u00e9. Ce chauffeur de bus n’a m\u00eame pas compris l’expression “je ne veux pas lui faire de mal”. Tout a commenc\u00e9 quand je n’ai rien dit, j’ai juste regard\u00e9 pour voir si j’attendais un bon bus, et il m’a dit m\u00e9chamment que nous ne partions pas encore, allez \u00e0 l’arri\u00e8re de la file d’attente. Je vois que tout le monde est frustr\u00e9. Ce chauffeur de bus n’a m\u00eame pas compris ma r\u00e9ponse quand je lui ai dit que je ne voulais pas lui faire de mal. Il a cru que je voulais l’attaquer. Il vaut peut-\u00eatre mieux que je ne parle \u00e0 personne. Ici, tout le monde est col\u00e9rique.
Comme hier au restaurant. Il m’a fallu 30 secondes pour calmer la barmaid d\u00e9bord\u00e9e. Ce n’est pas \u00e9tonnant qu’elle soit flegmatique, elle a \u00e9t\u00e9 maltrait\u00e9e toute la journ\u00e9e. Personne ne pense qu’elle est fatigu\u00e9e. En fait, je me fiche de la frustration du chauffeur de bus, mais je ne veux pas la blesser non plus. Peut-\u00eatre que s’il n’\u00e9tait pas trop stress\u00e9\u2026
Je suis arriv\u00e9e chez mon p\u00e8re, j’ai discut\u00e9 un peu avec lui. Puis nous sommes all\u00e9s chez mon fr\u00e8re. Mon p\u00e8re est venu, m\u00eame s’il s’est plaint \u00e0 moi qu’il ne voulait pas, mais quand le petit-fils a appel\u00e9, il n’y a plus eu d’objections.
Mon fr\u00e8re a finalement emm\u00e9nag\u00e9 dans sa nouvelle maison, qui est grande et tr\u00e8s bien situ\u00e9e. On peut y voir l’amour de la technologie. Tout est moderne, propre et sophistiqu\u00e9. Certains interrupteurs sont tellement compliqu\u00e9s \u00e0 actionner que c’en est inconfortable. Je suis fier qu’il ait construit une si belle maison. Nous avons discut\u00e9 jusque tard dans la nuit. J’ai dormi l\u00e0 aussi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Budapest, 2023 december 25.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Milyen \u00e9rdekes, j\u00f3t aludtam \u00e9s magamt\u00f3l \u00e9bredtem. Viszont a f\u00fcrd\u0151szob\u00e1t egy \u00e1zsiai csoport foglalja, \u00edgy a reggeli zuhanyz\u00f3t\u00f3l eltekintek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u00e9g Magyarorsz\u00e1gon sem szok\u00e1s reggelire tartalmas guly\u00e1slevest \u00e9s m\u00e1glyarak\u00e1s desszertet enni, viszont \u00e9n itt olyanokat fogok enni, ami otthon nincs. Hopp, ez is furcsa: az otthon sz\u00f3t nem a sz\u00fcl\u0151haz\u00e1mmal kapcsolatban haszn\u00e1lom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nem sietek vid\u00e9kre. A vonatot is \u00e9pphogy \u00e9l\u00e9rem. Nincs kedvem ehhez a l\u00e1togat\u00e1shoz. Ennek ellen\u00e9re Balatonvil\u00e1gosn\u00e1l m\u00e1r \u00fagy tapadok az ablakra, mint egy \u00fajsz\u00fcl\u00f6tt turista. V\u00e9gig kamer\u00e1zom a t\u00f3partot. M\u00e9g be sem futott a vonatom a c\u00e9l\u00e1llom\u00e1sra, \u00f6cs\u00e9m m\u00e1ris elsz\u00e1ntan h\u00edv, hogy aludjak n\u00e1la. Ap\u00e1mnak m\u00e1r meg\u00edg\u00e9rtem, hogy d\u00e9lut\u00e1n n\u00e1la vagyok. Meg\u00e9rkez\u00e9sem ut\u00e1n egy \u00f3r\u00e1val tes\u00f3 \u00e9s kisl\u00e1nya megjelenik a nagypapa nappalij\u00e1ban. \u00c9n kilenc h\u00f3napja nem j\u00e1rtam itt, \u0151k h\u00e1rom, \u00e9n ezerk\u00e9tsz\u00e1z kilom\u00e9terre lakom a sz\u00fcl\u0151i h\u00e1zt\u00f3l, \u0151k kilenc kilom\u00e9terre. M\u00e9gis, ha ap\u00e1mnak net\u00e1n seg\u00edts\u00e9gre van sz\u00fcks\u00e9ge, \u0151k vannak k\u00e9zn\u00e9l. H\u00e1l\u00e1s vagyok vagyok, mert n\u00e9ha foglalkoznak vele. \u00c9n nem fogok a sz\u00fcleim seg\u00edts\u00e9g\u00e9re lenni, akkor sem, ha val\u00f3ban sz\u00fcks\u00e9g lesz r\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tegnap, amikor meg\u00e9rkeztem az orsz\u00e1gba, az els\u0151 kellemes \u00e9lm\u00e9nyem a buszon volt: Tiszt\u00e1n \u00e9rtettem minden sz\u00f3t, nem kellett fejben folyamatosan ford\u00edtanom. Az els\u0151 kellemetlen \u00e9lm\u00e9ny, ma d\u00e9lut\u00e1n a buszon \u00e9rt. \u00c9rtem, ebben az orsz\u00e1gban ez a fajta mufurc viselked\u00e9s teljesen norm\u00e1lis, de \u00e9n egy olyan orsz\u00e1gb\u00f3l j\u00f6v\u00f6k, ahol a tisztelet, kor\u00e1bban kezd\u0151dik. Itt minden ember frusztr\u00e1lt. Ez a buszsof\u0151r nem is \u00e9rtette azt a mondatot, hogy nem akarom b\u00e1ntani. Az eg\u00e9sz \u00fcgy kezd\u0151d\u00f6tt, hogy m\u00e9g meg sem sz\u00f3laltam, csak b\u00e1multam, hogy j\u00f3 buszra v\u00e1rakozom e, \u0151 meg nem kedvesen k\u00f6z\u00f6lte, m\u00e9g nem indulunk, \u00e1llj\u00e1k be a sor v\u00e9g\u00e9re. L\u00e1tom, hogy minden ember frusztr\u00e1lt. Ez a buszsof\u0151r nem is \u00e9rtette a v\u00e1laszomat, amikor azt mondtam neki, hogy nem akarom b\u00e1ntani. Azt hitte t\u00e1madni akarom. Tal\u00e1n az a legjobb, ha nem sz\u00f3lok senkihez. Itt mindenki indulatos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P\u00e9ld\u00e1ul tegnap az \u00e9tteremben is. Harminc m\u00e1sodpercembe ker\u00fclt m\u00edg meg tudtam nyugtatni a t\u00falterhelt pultos l\u00e1nyt. Nem csoda, ha flegma, hisz eg\u00e9sz nap csak a b\u00e1nt\u00e1st kapja. Senki sem gondol bele,hogy \u0151 is f\u00e1radt. Val\u00f3j\u00e1ban engem nem \u00e9rdekel a buszsof\u0151r frusztr\u00e1ci\u00f3ja, de b\u00e1ntani sem akarom. Tal\u00e1n, ha nem lenne t\u00fal terhelve…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Meg\u00e9rkeztem ap\u00e1mhoz, picit besz\u00e9lgettem vele. Azt\u00e1n \u00e1tment\u00fcnk tes\u00f3m h\u00e1z\u00e1ba. Ap\u00e1m is \u00e1tj\u00f6tt, pedig panaszkodott nekem, hogy nem akar, de amikor az unoka h\u00edvta, nem volt t\u00f6bb ellenvet\u00e9s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tes\u00f3 v\u00e9gre bek\u00f6lt\u00f6z\u00f6tt az \u00faj h\u00e1z\u00e1ba, ami nagyra n\u0151tt \u00e9s nagyon sz\u00e9p helyen van. L\u00e1tszik benne a technol\u00f3gia im\u00e1dat. Minden modern, letisztult \u00e9s bonyolult. N\u00e9h\u00e1ny kapcsol\u00f3 kezel\u00e9se annyira bonyolult, hogy az m\u00e1r k\u00e9nyelmetlen. B\u00fcszke vagyok r\u00e1, hogy ilyen sz\u00e9p h\u00e1zat \u00e9p\u00edtett. \u00c9jszak\u00e1ig besz\u00e9lgett\u00fcnk. Ott is aludtam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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