Alcoholism and the friendship
I found some notes that I dictated to the phone, so there is no handwriting. I need to practice using my new French keyboard anyway, so I’m writing now. Which is an interesting feat, because there are no letters O and U on this one, for example; but there are two CÇ and two ÉÈ.
Random thoughts, 2024. Thursday, May 16
The man-eating shark is the most powerful environmentalist. (I think I stole that sentence from someone. I don’t know, I didn’t write down the time or place or context.)
How can you create something new? Here I have in my hand a blue and a red chalk. Now I put these on top of each other. What colour is this now? Purple. So is this something new? I don’t have any purple chalk in my hand, just two old pieces. Perhaps, that’s what it’s like when you use your existing knowledge to create something new. We don’t need to change the whole world, we just need to experiment with what we know until we are surprised by the results:
“Anything too much or anything too little is an abuse. /Endre Kadarkai, In the Spirit/
Food is also part of the culture. If you want to get to know a country’s culture while on holiday, it’s not advisable to eat the liver pâté you brought from home. Sit anywhere; watch people. What do they eat? How do they behave? Well, and of course there’s the old trick: choose a place where things are only posted in the local language!
This is not the right place! This sentence is a big dilemma. I wrote this down during working hours on a peaceful day. The dilemma is illustrated by the question: well, where would I be in the right place?!
If I were spiritual, I would write two sentences on the wall:
1, Life always compensates. Everything and everyone compensates and that’s fine.
2, Somehow it works out… Any problem that we can’t deal with will sooner or later solve itself. Of course, the end result is much more sympathetic (and liveable) if the problem is not left alone.
The point is that there is never enough reason to despair.
This colleague is as nervous about his money as if he had it. If he has it, why is he getting upset about it?! If the needs are met, then the target dates for the needs can be pushed. Need, self-fulfilment, pleasure (and so on) are important, but let’s not forget that the good life is not a question of money, because pleasure can be found anywhere in everyday life. (We don’t have to agree, but if you see it differently, please ask yourself one question before you go to sleep: what am I grateful for today?)
I can call myself a self-proclaimed ADHD, autistic, parentified or who knows what else… It is important that these are not explanations, but solution concepts. For example: aha, people with ADHD use such and such strategies to solve their problems. Maybe, these methods will work for me too.
I was talking on the phone to a greedy friend of mine. Why do you hate alcoholism? That’s like hating yourself. Make peace with it, be the boss! For example, “Dear alcoholic, I’m the boss, I tell you when to celebrate, when to work. Wait two more days, it’s the weekend on Saturday!
Here are the first experiences with the new keyboard. It is much more convenient than the Hungarian one used for desktop computers. This is a tablet size, which is a more compact size: it’s much easier to hold than the classic size. It’s not the lack of U or O that’s the problem (I’ll get that fixed with AI). I don’t spoil the existing accented letters either, because you have to look for them and look for them. However, for example, the reversed position of A and Q causes a lot of typos. I get into trouble out of habit, i.e. by blindly hitting keys.
